Transformative Family Travel: Unlocking Spontaneity and Connection with a New Vehicle
Michele BorbaEducational psychologist and author focusing on building empathy and resilience in children.
This narrative explores a family's journey to redefine vacationing with their pre-teen daughter, shifting from rigid itineraries to embracing spontaneity. Utilizing a new vehicle, they embarked on a road trip through San Diego, discovering that flexibility and advanced car features significantly enhanced their travel experience. This approach not only fostered stronger family bonds but also unveiled unexpected delights, culminating in an impromptu visit to a renowned theme park, proving that memorable adventures can emerge from adaptable plans and a comfortable ride.
Our family, consisting of myself, my husband Nathanael, and our eleven-year-old daughter Mila, had previously adhered to conventional vacation styles, such as ocean cruises, visits to relatives, and elaborate Disney theme park excursions. However, as Mila transitioned into her pre-teen years, marked by typical adolescent attitudes, we recognized the necessity for a new travel paradigm. The usual attractions no longer held her interest, prompting us to seek alternatives beyond pre-packaged resort experiences and scheduled amusements.
A timely invitation to test the 2026 Mazda CX-5 in San Diego presented the ideal chance to experiment with a more fluid travel style. The absence of a fixed schedule allowed us to forge our own path along the Californian coast, aligning perfectly with our desire for meaningful travel experiences. Our objective was to escape our demanding East Coast routines and reconnect through shared, unscripted moments.
Before our departure from Connecticut, we convened a family meeting to establish a “choose-your-own-adventure” travel philosophy. Each family member selected an activity: I was keen on driving along scenic Highway 101, Nathanael wished to observe the sea lions at La Jolla, and Mila sought out local surf and vintage shops. I enforced one rule: no visits to Disneyland, despite its proximity to San Diego. Surprisingly, everyone concurred, agreeing to postpone a Disney visit for another time.
Our base for this innovative journey was the Alila Marea Beach Resort in Encinitas, a picturesque coastal town. Securing adjoining rooms proved to be a strategic decision, especially when traveling with a pre-teen. This arrangement offered Mila the personal space she craved for unwinding and preparing at her own pace, while Nathanael and I enjoyed private moments on our balcony, admiring the Pacific sunset.
Our initial full day was dedicated to exploring Highway 101, immersed in Encinitas' relaxed surf culture. The new Mazda CX-5 served as our mobile hub, allowing us to stop impulsively at intriguing shops, eateries, or scenic overlooks. We encountered an unforeseen obstacle when our planned route coincided with the annual “Kook Run.” In contrast to previous travel frustrations, the vehicle's integrated Google-powered 15.6-inch touchscreen seamlessly redirected us through charming residential areas, leading us back to the breathtaking ocean views of Highway 101.
Matthew Valbuena, a Mazda engineer, emphasized that this integrated technology simplifies trip planning and encourages spontaneous exploration, enabling travelers to effortlessly discover hidden gems. This innovative approach transformed potential travel stressors into enjoyable, collaborative experiences. The car itself became a collaborative space, fostering family engagement rather than isolation. The expanded legroom in the backseat offered Mila a personal retreat, preventing her from feeling confined. When she desired music, she could either use her headphones or activate the Google Assistant, turning our drives into impromptu “Carpool Karaoke” sessions.
Valbuena highlighted the importance of a comfortable back seat for overall family enjoyment. We also discovered a built-in Wi-Fi hotspot, a feature we planned to leverage on future trips for seamless digital connectivity. Our journey along Highway 101 became an exercise in adaptability, leading us to quaint cafes, unique vintage stores, and independent bookstores. Mila's willingness to take selfies in a beachfront park, usually a source of contention, marked a significant moment of connection.
On the second day, I took the wheel as we ventured towards La Jolla Cove and Balboa Park. Despite my usual reluctance to drive on unfamiliar highways, Jennifer Morrison, Mazda's Director of Vehicle Safety, instilled confidence. She described the CX-5 as a “safety tank,” engineered with increased high-tensile steel and an advanced sensor system that acts as an “invisible bodyguard.” This knowledge, coupled with the vehicle's ten advanced airbags, allowed me to relax and appreciate the stunning coastal scenery.
The panoramic sunroof enhanced the transition between beach and road, while the car's 360-degree cameras and agile handling simplified navigating the narrow streets of La Jolla. At La Jolla Cove, we marveled at seals and sea lions, spending an hour exploring the vibrant area. Our visit to the Japanese Friendship Garden and Museum in Balboa Park proved to be a highlight. Mila, typically reserved, was captivated by the tranquil setting, requesting extra time in the meditation room and participating in a traditional tea ceremony. This experience marked a turning point, transforming her into an engaged and appreciative travel companion.
By our final afternoon, we were intentionally extending our drives, reluctant to conclude our journey. We felt successful in our “no-safety-net” vacation experiment. Mila's casual inquiry about Disneyland's proximity, initially met with my husband's surprise, prompted a spontaneous decision. Thanks to the car's Google Assistant and the flexibility it offered, we swiftly extended our trip, securing accommodations and theme park tickets. This impromptu detour underscored the transformative power of adaptable travel and the role of a well-equipped vehicle in enabling such flexibility.
Our San Diego adventure, facilitated by the Mazda CX-5, taught us that travel with a pre-teen can be a dynamic and enriching experience when approached with an open mind and the right tools. The blend of advanced safety features, intelligent navigation, and spacious comfort transformed our vehicle into a mobile sanctuary, fostering an environment where connection and spontaneity thrived. This journey not only strengthened our family bonds but also offered a valuable lesson in embracing the unexpected, proving that true enjoyment often lies beyond the meticulously planned itinerary.

